Let's talk about "Sentiamoci qualche volta"

"And if you knew these persons less from <<newspaper>> and more from life, you would find that they are completely marked by their choice. In two versions, in my opinion, equally sad: the apathy and melancholy and unbridled and chatty vitality.

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 I know, Andrea: reductions, simplifications, literature. But also desire of being on my own side. And finally understand which is it. And not being too afraid if it doen't fall into the categories of classics majorities and minorities, and even in those of the new liberations and new ghettos for neoliberals. We are not expected? Does it matter? The cowardice, the error, is believing that patterns and ratings are more important than one's life. That nobody will live it taking our place. For which no one will fight if not us... "

These phrases are taken from a beautiful book by Gilberto Severini, titled "Sentiamoci qualche volta" published in 1984 and now difficult to find. It's an epistolary novel in which two protagonists, after many years from their common youth experiences, found a sensitive communication  about their past, about divorce and illness, about feelings and personal fulfillment. Very pleasant to be read, the text offers many breathing spaces, as in the fragment shown above: the stereotype of self-centered homosexual, chatty and frivolous, it's well known, but how many know the other side of being gay? we mean the difficulty in relating to a disrespectful society, intolerant, sometimes even homophobic. It's for this problem that many boys and girls fall into depression, of which apathy is one of the symptoms. The melancholy of these persons cannot be hidden and unspoken. Severini doesn't do that. He emphasizes the issue in a few lines, underlining the importance of the problem, well awaring that a group of people can't be lined up on a table under two adjectives, but in the intention of stressing two important and opposite aspects. 
What do you think?  
There is a degree of realism in the classification of gay being that Severini does?